Wendy Moore is a Volunteer Coordinator in Brisbane, Australia. Her background includes IT, administration, sales and marketing. She has a Bachelor of Administration and an Associate Diploma in Business. She believes that Volunteer Management has been her destiny. http://wendy-moore.blogspot.com/ more

The Power of Nice in Volunteer Management

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Linda Kaplan Thaler in her book, “The Power of Nice: How to Conquer the Business World with Kindness”, co-authored by Robin Koval, suggests that “nice has an image problem.” She goes on to say “Somewhere along the way, using the word nice became something you said when you had nothing else to say.”

How right you are Linda and how often do we, as volunteer managers, hear that word in reference to our roles. In fact the other day, a colleague and I were discussing how our roles are often characterized by people, outside the volunteer management sector, by comments of “how nice!” While we cringe at the saccharine, somewhat patronising description of our jobs, we both agreed that there was nothing wrong with being nice. In fact it was essential and we wouldn’t want it any other way.

Linda goes on to say that “For many people ‘being nice’ is misinterpreted as ‘being a doormat’, which is very far from the truth. You can be nice without being a pushover.”

A while back I came across a video of a debate at an International Women’s Day event held in Australia by AIM Australian Institute of Management. The AIM Website http://aimqld.com.au/events/brisbane/event_IWD.htm promotes the event as follows “Every year six accomplished business women grace the stage and take on a provocative debate topic over lunch with over 1200 guests.” The debate which caught my attention was the 2010 debate topic “That nice girls don’t get the corner office”.

I listened with great interest to the six speakers, but was extremely impressed by two speakers in particular.

Louise Perram-Fisk, Director Industry Capability, Corporate Division, 1st speaker for the negative http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0mzYkx-lIdw said that “the word nice by definition was being respectful, showing skill, tact, care and kindness”. She went on to say that “Nobody said that if you were nice you gave up your objectives, your drives, your determination. Nobody said that we go far if we trample on others.”

Louise quoted CEO and author of best seller “The Power of Nice”, Linda Kaplin Thaler “Nice is the unsung hero of the business world”. Linda’s research showed that ‘nice’ companies experienced lower turnover, have healthier and more successful people and are less likely to be involved in costly litigation.

Karen Jacobsen, The GPS Girl, Voice Artist and Entertainment Queen, 3rd speaker for the negative http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fnzjGescAHE suggests that “being nice is not a weakness. It is a strength to take you where you want to go.” Karen goes on to say “My clients want to deal with me because I am committed, professional, courteous, considerate, respectful and skilful. I believe in excellent customer service. I embrace the nice not the naïve.” In a truly inspirational conclusion Karen calls for everyone in the audience to join her in paying tribute to International Women’s Day by holding mobile phones in the air in a silent and unified wave to the strong and powerful essence of nice.

Thank you for taking the time to read this post.

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WendyMoore

Thank you so much for your comment Claire. I really love your acronym for Nice.

N - non-judgemental
I - incredible
C - charming
E - exquisite

or another could be

N - Natural
I - Inspirational
C - Communicative
E - Effervescent

8th Oct '11 at 09:42
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WendyMoore

Thanks for taking the time to comment Sue. I am all for encouragement rather than competition and redifing "Nice".

8th Oct '11 at 09:34
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claireross

Agreeable, pleasant, good, fine, lovely, amusing, wonderful, kind, polite - all words that came up in the thesaurus as alternatives for 'Nice'.
I personally would be mega chuffed if I was called any of these, including 'nice'.
I call people nice all the time and really truly mean it in the best possible way. A 'nice' person is someone I can relate to, someone who is all of the things from the list above. The word nice sums it all up in one little word that means so much more.
I agree with Sue and feel that it would be a good idea to 'dust it off' and I for one will be celebrating the word and thanking someone if they call me it.
NICE
N - non-judgemental
I - incredible
C - charming
E - exquisite

What would your acronym of Nice be.

6th Oct '11 at 14:03
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suevjones

I think it comes down to the old adage that 'people buy people'. And, at the end of the day there's got to be something attractive about 'nice', especially when it's within the context of approachable, effective, motivational, supportive - all words we would definitely aim to associate with volunteer management.
It also reminded me of what Nancy Kline, author of Time to Think says about harnessing encouragement, as opposed to competition in terms of we interact with others. Afterall, 'nice' wouldn't be competing would it? But consider this, perhaps competing isn't all it's cracked up to be- it doesn't guarantee excellence, it simply demonstrates comparative success.
So, maybe it's time to re-define 'nice'- dust it off, give it an outing and a 21st century re-brand, make it relevant for our roles and our evolving workplace.
"When people are not competing with each other to be best, it is possible to think all the way to something good."

3rd Oct '11 at 22:26